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I can’t help but notice some things so please allow me to make some statements that may or may not be received well — I don’t know how any of you will receive it and while I’ll attempt to maintain decorum and be as politically correct as possible, I’m going to probably still hurt your feelings either way so let’s rip the band-aid right on off, shall we?
Some of you are unrealistic about polygyny. You’re desperate and you’re running full-speed ahead, no-holds-barred toward your future polygynous household — and what you don’t seem to understand, is that what you THINK it’s gonna be, is based on FANTASY and FAIRY-TALES!
It would be great if people would understand themselves BEFORE they get into polygyny, but some of us won’t get it until we’ve actually tried it for ourselves. But you need to do your BEST to understand yourself RIGHT NOW before you move forward.
What kind of person are you? Are you kind? Are you able to balance? Are you patient? Can you be a friend? Are you able to be FAIR?
Everyone needs to ask themselves questions like these and REALLY be honest with yourselves before you move into this.
Do you realize that women are not cardboard cut outs? Do you realize they’re NOT all the same? Do you realize that, if you have one wife already, chances are wife two is NOT going to be like her? And neither is wife three? Are you ready to contend with their different emotions, sensitivities, likes and dislikes? Are you ready to contend with your OWN emotions, sensitivities, likes and dislikes when you find out that this person that you thought was going to be all this is NOT going to be all of what you thought?
Are you able to be fair THROUGH the FACT that, since you’ve been with Wife A for x amount of years, you may find you prefer HER ways and Wife B MAY NOT CONFORM to the same ways that Wife A has? Because UNLESS you taking women directly out of their father’s houses, these women have been adults for a long time and already have “ways” that they are (“I’m just that way; that’s how I am”). Are you able to STILL deal with her FAIRLY and give her her DUE when that happens IN SPITE OF the fact that you NOW realize you prefer Wife A’s ways and that you IGNORANTLY assumed that when you got Wife B and C they would just come in and conform??
First wives, are you able to understand that EVEN if you and sister-woman are like besties when you meet, that you’re gonna get in there and you’re going to find places where you just don’t agree? Are YOU able to be fair if you find out she’s NOT going to be your bestie like you thought, because you get your nails done and she’s not interested in getting her nails done? Are you able to be fair when you find out your differences?
Wives coming in/Potentials — are you able to understand that fact that if you’re joining a family already-in-progress that they are gonna have their ways and their speed? Are you able to understand that they TOO, are NOT cookie cutter cardboard cut outs of happy families? What are you going to do when they disagree with your methods? What are you gonna do, when they disagree with EACH OTHER’s methods? ARE YOU GONNA BE FAIR?
Polygyny is NOT easy, and you’re not gonna just be good at it just because you say you are or you THINK you are. Some of you are single or in currently-monogamous relationships and you ALREADY not dealing fairly with the people you claim to love or have made a commitment to.
… so many of you are DESPERATE and you don’t even know what you’re getting yourselves into. You’re desperately seeking fantasies of Big Love and Brother Polight.
Not to MENTION the FACT that, while in the world and in the COUNTRY there are significantly more viable black women than there are more viable black men, when it comes to black women in America that choose polygyny as their relationship dynamic, there are more families looking to add on a wife than there are women to go around! Men and families come in to these facebook groups and they put up a status “Who wants to be the wife of a righteous Hebrew/Muslim man?” “Women in Colorado, inbox me!” “Are you pro black? Because I’m pro black – let’s get this black love going! Message me!” Even if they go so far as to put an entire bio on them and their current family stats — THAT DOESN’T MEAN WOMEN ARE JUST GOING TO FALL INTO YOUR INBOX! Just because you’re Hebrew and she’s Hebrew does NOT mean she’s meant for you! Just because you’re pro black and she’s pro black does NOT mean she’s supposed to come your way! There are 5 other people — 3 other families and 2 other single men — vying for that woman, JUST LIKE YOU.
So with THAT being the case, you just putting the call out there like that and thinking it’s going to be inviting and received and women just gone be like “Yeeh we wanna join up wit HIM” is not realistic at all.
And this ALSO leads to the FACT that POLYGYNY MAY NOT HAPPEN FOR YOU!! NO MATTER HOW MANY DREAMS YOU HAVE OF NATION-BUILDING, HAVING ALL THESE WOMEN IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD AND ALL THESE BABIES — THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE GONNA GET IT! It doesn’t matter how GOOD you are, how RIGHT you are, how financially responsible you ARE, it doesn’t MATTER — NONE of it matters because there are multiple men/families purporting to be JUST AS GOOD as you are, all to the SAME WOMAN you are chasing after! And GUESS WHAT?? SHE might not be very good at making decisions in relationships ANYWAY — so IF you are the best choice she may not even SEE you like that. So off SHE goes with someone else.

No.
Everything you’re moving toward — everything you’re thinking about when it comes to polygyny — is predicated on fantastical bullshit.

…and I know you guys want the REAL-real — you want to hear from real life polygynous families and what they go through, because you think it will help. but IT MAY NOT. It might not. The human ego is a HUGE thing. Husbands will look at that family and tell themselves “I’m just like HIM”and they’re NOT — women will look at the wives in the family and say “That is SO me!” and they’re NOT — because if you don’t live with those people and see them for more than a few hours in a day you don’t have any idea WHO they are OR what they’re actually like, you only see a portion of who they are, they only tell you about a portion of themselves, their love for each other is too complicated, their arguments are too complicated, their lives are too complicated for you to REALLY “see yourself” in these people.

Sometimes those that have done polygyny or are DOING polygyny can look at what people post in here and we already know who is PROBABLY not cut out for this.
There’s no point in telling you this, because you’re not going to LISTEN, you still want to TRY and when you TRY you will find out the truth of the situation and you’ll understand yourself THEN — the REAL you that you couldn’t see — and you’ll either put your adult drawls on and do your best to be a good person in spite of yourself, or you’ll make all the mistakes I’ve loosely mentioned.

But I hope you understand ONE point I was trying to make — don’t play with people’s lives, don’t play with their hearts and emotions just because YOU don’t know who YOU are. You can’t move a woman in, and THEN find she’s not a good fit and send her on her way. You can’t bring a sister in as your co, THEN feel some type of way when she doesn’t agree with your disciplining methods , and then want her gone. You can’t join a family, and then when you see all the shit they got going on, want to back out.
Do what you can to TRULY know who you are and what you can handle. You’re still not going to know until you get off in there, and really some questions and some things just can’t be answered until you get in the thing and then and ONLY then will you know and understand yourself.

But know I TRIED to warn you and I TRIED to get you to look within…

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wife
/wīf/
noun
noun: wife; plural noun: wives
  1. a married woman considered in relation to her spouse.

In Hebrew, the word “isha/ishah” means both woman and wife, interchangeably.

con·cu·bine
/ˈkäNGkyəˌbīn/

noun

historical
noun: concubine; plural noun: concubines
  1. (in polygamous societies) a woman who lives with a man but has lower status than his wife or wives.

Pilegesh (Hebrew: פילגש‎) is a Hebrew term for a concubine with similar social and legal standing to a recognized wife, often for the purpose of producing offspring.

Zonah(Hebrew:זונה) is a Hebrew term for a prostitute. (there is a female AND male pronunciation — FYI)

Often, Hebrew Israelite women and men are in a battle over concubinage. Men are quick to say that a woman’s virginity is a factor as to whether or not she is a wife or a concubine. The women are made to feel shame for any past they may have; it seems that there is no area for repentance and teshuvah in this topic.
Many who are Hebrew Israelites now were not always awake to who they were. They were born and raised Christian or something else. They lived their lives however they saw fit , and then found out they were Hebrew. Then they turned away from their old ways, striving for righteousness.
But often, a woman is told that, if she is not a virgin when she marries, then she is not a wife — she is a concubine.
When you ask what a concubine is, you may receive a variety of answers — a concubine is a slave-wife, a concubine is a woman who is not a virgin, a concubine is a wife without covenant, a concubine is a girlfriend, a concubine is a woman who has children from another relationship, a concubine is a woman that’s not good enough to be a wife but you still want to bed her.
Whatever the case may be, there is scriptural evidence implying some of these. Others are simply personal opinions of the masses often accepted as fact.

Concubine as a slave-wife: Often in scripture we see a slave girl being taken and lain with, and children are made from that woman. A slave has no choice to consent to or decline to do what is their master’s wish — if a man had a slave girl, and he wanted to lay with her, he could and she would become his concubine. If a woman had a slave girl and she wanted her husband to lay with her, he could and she would become his concubine.
Female slaves were given over to any man to whom her master wished to gift her.
Slavery is not legally done today, so this idea is archaic among us, at best.
(A female slave can become a concubine, but being a concubine does NOT mean you are suddenly a slave! We are all to be dutiful servants of our husbands if we observe the Torah or the Quran, but you are NOT a slave. Even queens were servants to their kings.)
Concubine as a non-virgin: You will hear that a woman who is a non-virgin is only able to receive concubine status with her husband, and not full-wife status (thereby conversely saying that virgins get full-wife status). You will hear many reasons why — some will say if a woman had sex with a man and lost her virginity, then she is THAT man’s wife. The reasoning behind this is because to many Israelites, sex equals marriage. They will pull out verses to support this claim. But they are neglecting other verses on the matter — while sex is needed to complete the marriage “ceremony”, you also need an agreement between parties that this is what you will be to each other, and you need witnesses to the agreement. When a man took an unmarried/unbetrothed Daughter of Israel in a field, he had to pay her father the bride price and basically complete the ceremony. If not, he was seen as having defiled her and messed with her status in society. Sex is not ALL you need to do to be considered a wife.
So think about people’s younger sexual conquests — no, sisters, you are not married to those men if there was no agreement with them that that is what you were doing. No, brethren, you are NOT married to those women if there was no agreement with them that that is what you were doing. (and you know that was not the agreement you had with those people — outside of the righteous Hebraic construct, many things occur and sexual promiscuity is had by both genders.)
Let me point out some non-virginal women in scripture that, when married, were described as wives and not concubines (because scripture is very explicit in titles — what’s there is there and what isn’t there can only be speculated on) —
Ruth (Book of Ruth — widowed; she becomes a wife of Boaz in the end)
Abigail (1 Samuel 25 — widowed; becomes a wife of King David)
Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11)
Bathsheba is a particularly interesting case — while being married to Uriah, Bathsheba committed adultery with King David, which is a sinful act, and became pregnant. Then David had Uriah killed so that he could have Bathsheba as his wife. Never was Bathsheba referred to as his concubine. …and scripture was very clear as to who was concubine and who was not.

Concubine as a wife without covenant:The Babylonian Talmud (the Talmud being a Jewish book that doesn’t hold any one rule for or against anything, and is largely a book of debate and opinion) states that a concubine is a wife without covenant: (from Wikipedia:)”the difference between a pilegesh and a full wife was that the latter received a marriage contract (Hebrew:ketubah) and her marriage (nissu’in) was preceded by a formal betrothal (“kiddushin”), which was not the case with the former. According to R. Judah, however, the pilegesh should also receive a marriage contract, but without including a clause specifying a divorce settlement. (this final line I can agree with — I believe people should understand the nature of their relationship and that things should be clear and concise to the point that it could be written out and both parties would be in agreement on what’s written on that paper)

Concubine as a woman who has children from another relationship: This belief has no foundation in scripture. I can’t find evidence anywhere — a woman who was a widow and had children could be made a full-wife to a man if he wished it.
Kohanim have restrictions on who they can and can’t marry, but not every man is a priest. If you are a Kohan/Cohen, you should be fully aware on your marital restrictions according to Torah, and you should abide by them. A Kohan cannot marry a zonah or a divorced woman (Lev. 21:7) and a kohan gadol (A HIGH priest) cannot marry a widow, a divorced woman, a zonah, a non-Hebrew or converted woman, OR a non-virgin (Lev. 21:13-15). Notice there’s a difference between a priest and a HIGH priest — not every priest is a high priest (the rules in this chapter for the high priest begins at verse 10).

As I mentioned earlier, scripture is very clear on what women were concubines or not. It did not hinge on whether or not that woman was a virgin, it hinges on what that woman’s agreement was with that man. The Most High never frowned on a woman being a wife OR a concubine. And in Hebraic society, being a concubine was NOT seen as a bad thing — she was a wife, she respected and submitted to her man as her husband and her head.
What a woman must do is make sure she understands the relationship she has with her man. I am big on things being clear and concise — I don’t like to be confused as to what we are to each other. I think a woman should request clarity and transparency, and if she agrees with the terms of that relationship, those two are able to do whatever it is they chose per that agreement according to Torah. (of course there are prohibited marriages, but the only one that hinges on a woman’s virginity is that to a Kohan gadol)

KNOW YOUR TORAH IF YOU’RE GOING TO LIVE BY IT, AND YOU WON’T EVER BE DECEIVED.

Righteous Polygyny is NOT “I want another wife and if you don’t let me have one, I’m going to leave because I want one so badly!”

Righteous Polygyny is NOT “I’m going to take a wife behind my current wife’s (wives’) back.”

Righteous polygyny is NOT “I’m going to MAKE my wives accept polygyny, even if I have to beat them.”

Righteous Polygyny is NOT “I’m dating a married man and we just haven’t told his wife yet.”

Lying is not a good way to start off ANY relationship.
Force/Coercion is not a good way to motivate anyone to be involved in something.

You don’t treat people like that. You want your woman to be interested in polygyny? Talk to her about it. Go to scripture (if you believe in a god; if you have a holy book). Point it out to her there; The Living God allows for a man to have more than one wife. Check out poly positive books and blogs. Show her polygyny in a scientific fashion, if need be. Show her statistics (two-thirds of the world allows polygyny to be an marital option). Give her the reasons you want another wife. Show her the benefits she will incur if there is another wife. LET HER KNOW YOU WILL CONTINUE TO LOVE HER AND CHERISH HER, JUST AS YOU ALWAYS HAVE. Solidify your relationship with her, before you bring someone else to it.

If your polygyny has any of these elements, it MAY fail. It may be unhappy. It may! I cant say it WILL because I have met people that have beat the odds. But it may be an unhappy situation for you.

I made these, too!

I CANT BELIEVE I DIDNT POST THIS A LONG TIME AGO!!

Opening Remarks:
My sisters, I know this is very sensitive and difficult subject for many of us to address and accept. Like many of you, I have struggled over the issues of adultery and polygyny, and the seemingly unfair rules of marriage YAHWAH has created. But, listen to me good, YAH knows what He is doing. He is Elohym. This is His Word, His Rules and His Ways, and how dare we challenge or question the One who gives us life. I say to you, put aside all emotions and opinions and simply receive YAH’s word. Here are few things to keep in mind:
1. We must stop listening to the world’s wisdom, and heed YAH’s laws and wisdom. Ahbeenu will honor our obedience and the steps we take towards righteousness.
2. We must unlearn what the world and Babylon has taught us.
3. We must read exactly what scripture says and understand it as written. We are not to replace Scripture with our opinions and traditions.
4. Learn Torah. Learn what “thus says YAHWAH.” Willful ignorance of YAH’s word is not allowed at this hour.
5. Whether we like it or not, YAH’s word is very specific on certain subjects and often times, the rules are different for men and women, particularly on the issues of marriage, sex, adultery, etc.

Suggested Reading:
We Want For Our Sisters What We Want for Ourselves by Patricia Dixon (The book can be purchased from Amazon.com and other websites or bookstores. The book reveals that before European world domination, polygyny was practiced in over 80% of the world’s cultures. It has also been practiced throughout Western history and is even done so in contemporary American, however in ways that demoralize women and undermine relationships and families. As an alternative to living without men, Dr. Patricia Dixon proposes open and consensual polygyny or co-partnering for African American women and describes the experiences of those who are making it work)
Plural Marriage for Our Times: A Reinvented Option? By Philip L. Kilbride (The book can be purchased from Amazon.com and other websites or bookstores. Kilbride surveys several kinds of polygamy (polygyny, polyandry, group marriage) in various cultures, historical epochs, and religions. He then asks if some versions of plural marriage might be viable in our time. He explores these new varieties of “family” as he finds them in the United States among Mormons, African-Americans, and New Age spiritual communes. His comparisons with European and African practices shed light on the renewed possibility of security and care giving for our dependent generation who are at risk and who are suffering from fractured family relationships around the globe.)
What is Marriage?
Before we begin to talk about adultery, polygyny and fornication in terms of marriage, we must talk look at marriage according to the Torah.
Genesis 2:18 – YAH declares that it is not good for man to be alone and that he would make man a help meet.
Genesis 2:24 – YAHWAH declares that a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. This “one flesh” has spiritual and physical meaning. It means the actual act of intercourse. But, it also means that the two have become one in this entity called marriage. The couple is one spiritually, financially, emotionally, etc. Just as the many members of our single body, work together as one, so do the members of a marriage. As a unit, they are to serve YAHWAH and teach the fruit of their “one flesh” to serve the Most High. How this marriage occurs, can take on many forms as we will see in this study. To begin, we will use the union of Isaac and Rebekah to show the stages of marriage.
Genesis 24 tells the story of Isaac and Rebekah’s marriage. Several things happen in this story that bring us to through the engagement/betrothal, marriage and consummation of the marriage between Isaac and Rebekah
1. Avraham charges his servant with the task of going back to his homeland of Haran to find a wife for his son. Avraham does not want his son to marry one of the Canaanite women, because in Gen. 17 YAH had charged him to be a separate or set apart people. Avraham had no concern whether his servant would find a wife for Isaac or whether the woman would return with his servant. (Gen. 24:7-8)
2. Avraham’s servant made it to Haran and came upon a well, where women often came as a part of their daily chores. There he prayed that YAH would reveal the right woman through the sign he asked for and grant him success. The first woman who offered he and his camels water. before the servant had finished praying, Rebekah was at the well and met all the requirements of the sign. The servant learned that Rebekah was related to Avraham and Isaac, and gave her the nose ring and bracelets. (Gen. 24:11-27) The nose ring is a symbol of marriage proposal similar to the Western culture with rings for the finger. Nose rings were used in Hebrew culture and throughout many other Eastern cultures. (YAH even he gave Ysrael a nose ring. Read Ezekiel 16:9-14.)
3. Avraham’s servant is then taken to Rebekah’s family, where he shares his story and the meeting of Rebekah at the well. It is clear to all that it is YAH’s will for Rebekah to marry Isaac. Her father agrees and the bride price is paid for Rebekah. At this point, Isaac and Rebekah are engaged or betrothed to be married. (Gen. 24:28-59)
4. Avraham’s servant takes Rebekah and her handmaid (Rebekah’s gift from her father) back to Hebron for the marriage. Isaac and Rebekah meet and he takes her as his wife. This is the marriage. (A feast may or may not have occurred.) (Gen. 24:60-67)
5. Isaac not only takes Rebekah as his wife, but he takes her into his tent and loves her. This is the consummation of the marriage. (Gen. 24:67)
From this story, we learn that sex does not constitute marriage. (Later scriptures will also drive home this point.) Prior to meeting each other, Isaac and Rebekah were engage to be married. In Hebrew culture, a woman who is engaged to be married is not to be touched by any other man, or he causes her to commit adultery. Betrothal and marriage are the same. (We will discuss adultery in more detail later.)
Rebekah is taken to Isaac and he takes her as his wife. We can conclude that marriage has some form of betrothal period. The length of this period can vary. Isaac and Rebekah had a short betrothal, but if you look at the story of Jacob and Rachel and Leah in Genesis 29, you will see long periods of betrothal. Betrothal is marked by asking the woman’s family for permission to marry. (In our time, we see the man asking the woman.) Upon agreeing to a marriage contract, the bride price is paid. In this story, Avraham’s servant took 10 camels bearing gifts to give to Isaac’s future wife and her family.
Following the betrothal, we have a marriage and consummation. The marriage may or may not be marked by a wedding feast. Generally, we see a wedding feast of some sort.
Note: There is absolutely no scriptural requirement that you be married before a priest, preacher, or justice of the peace. There is no requirement that you obtain a marriage license. A marriage license is only relevant for Babylon’s purposes (i.e., insurance benefits, property division, etc.). If the two parties are truly under the authority of YAH, then a man after YAH’s heart will provide accordingly for his wife. In the end, we must give an account to YAH and not to the divorce court or this government.

What is Adultery?

Adultery – “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.” Webster’s, American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.

How does Torah define adultery?

Adultery- (Hebrew word is na’aph (Strong’s #5003 – naw-af’ ) a primitive root; to commit adultery; figuratively, to apostatize:–adulterer(-ess), commit(-ing) adultery, woman that breaketh wedlock.

Plainly stated, Torah says that adultery occurs when a woman breaks her marriage or wedding contract. We will look at examples of when this breaking of the marriage contract occurred according to Torah. You will learn that adultery occurs when a man (married or unmarried) has sexual intercourse with a woman who was either married or betrothed to another man. (Note: Keep in mind that there is a physical and spiritual side of adultery and this is seen when you examine Exodus 20:14. Through this verse, one of the commandments, YAH is telling all of Ysrael to not be spiritually unfaithful to Him, as well as not to engage in physical adultery.)

Let’s consider the scriptures:

· Leviticus 20:10 – “And the man that committeth adultery with [another] man’s wife, [even he] that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.”
· Deuteronomy 22:22 – “If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, [both] the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.”
· Deuteronomy 22:23-24 – “If a damsel [that is] a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, [being] in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour’s wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.”

a. Here, we see that a married or unmarried man commits adultery if he has sexual intercourse with another man’s wife (as King David did with Bathsheba, wife of Uriah) and the woman also becomes an adulteress. This is true whether the woman is fully married (and the marriage has been consummated) or is simply betrothed (marriage, but not consummation).
b. These scriptures emphasis a big difference between Western and Hebrew marriages. In the Western culture, we are told that a husband and wife are joined to each other in this contract, but here we see that a woman is joined to a man in an exclusive contract. Hence, the biblical definition of adultery is a “woman who breaks wedlock (or her marriage contract).” This will become clearer as we go along.
Summary – Adultery can only be determined based on the marital status of the woman involved. So, what does this mean? Clearly, a married man does not commit adultery if he has sex with an unmarried woman. (Like it or not sisters, this is what Torah says.) However, he does commit the sin of fornication, which we will discuss next.

What is Fornication?
Fornication – “voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.” Webster’s, American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.
What is the Biblical definition of fornication:

zanah (Hebrew – Strong’s #2181) – “fornication”, “whoring”, “whore”, “harlot”, “play the harlot”, “whoredom”, and “go a whoring”.

· is used exclusively in the context of whoring, and occurred when a man (married or unmarried) had sexual intercourse with a woman other than his wife.
· A whore or harlot, in Biblical context, is a woman who engages in such sexual intercourse, including one who prostitutes her body for hire.
· Scriptural examples of zanah and prohibitions against certain unlawful sexual behavior are seen in Leviticus 18:

o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his mother (Leviticus 18:7).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his father’s wife (Leviticus 18:8).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his sister (Leviticus 18:9).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his son’s daughter (Leviticus 18:10).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his father’s brother’s wife (Leviticus 18:14).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his son’s wife (Leviticus 18:15).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of his brother’s wife (Leviticus 18:16).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter (Leviticus 18:17).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her sister while the woman is still living (Leviticus 18:18).
o A man may not uncover the nakedness of a woman during her menses (Leviticus 18:19).
o A man may not have sexual intercourse with another man’s wife (Leviticus 18:20).
o A man may not have anal sexual intercourse with another male (Leviticus 18:22).
o A man may not have sexual intercourse with an animal (Leviticus 18:23).
o A woman may not have sexual intercourse with an animal (Leviticus 18:23).
· From these scriptures, we see that a man was not to uncover the nakedness of certain people and no animals, under the circumstances mentioned above. If he did, he committed fornication.

porneia (Greek – Strong’s #4202) – “fornication”, “whoring”, “sexual immorality”, “marital unfaithfulness”, “unchastity”, and “impurity”.

· refers to whoring, whether it occurs inside or outside of marriage, but porneia is broad enough to include other forms of sexual immorality, including adultery and incest.

At the heart of it, fornication is any unlawful sexual relation or sexual behavior not condoned by YAHWAH. By its very definition, fornication encompasses adultery, but it also includes all other forms of sexual sins. The scriptures do not make a distinction between married and unmarried people, when addressing the issue of fornication.

· Ezekiel 16:26-32 – Yerushalayim is compared to a married woman, and YAH says she has committed both adultery and fornication.
· Jeremiah 3:1-8 – a married woman “committed whoring (zanah) with many lovers” and was given a certificate of divorce. Thus, fornication can be committed whether you are married or unmarried, and YAH is dealing with our sexual immorality.
· 1 Corinthians 5:1 – fornication (porneia) is used to describe a situation where a man commits incest with his father’s wife. This use of fornication or porneia is a clear example of sexual immorality or unlawful sexual relations.
· Other examples of porneia as sexual immorality, committed by a married or unmarried person, are seen in Acts 15:23-29 and Revelation 17:2-5.

Summary – Fornication is an issue of sexual immorality or engaging in any sexual behavior YAH has declared unlawful, including adultery. Fornication is committed by a man, whether he is married or unmarried, if he has sexual intercourse with an unmarried or unbetrothed woman. So, yes my sisters, YAH does prohibit our husbands from having casual sex with unmarried or unbretrothed women, without the benefit of marriage. However, should our husbands commit fornication with an unmarried or unbretrothed woman, it is fornication and not adultery. But, we wives, if we have sex with any other man, commit adultery. Is one sin greater than the other? Of course not. Does YAH give men permission to sleep around with women without being married to them? Certainly not.

So, now that we know what fornication is and is not, what does Torah say about pre-marital sex?

· Exodus 22:16-17 – And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.
o In this situation, Torah requires a man, who has sex with a virgin woman that is not married or betrothed/engaged, to take her as his wife. He was required to marry her, whether he was already married or not, and pay the bride price.
o The two committed fornication and had sex without the benefit of marriage, but the act of sex or fornication did not automatically make them married.
o If the woman was not a virgin, marriage was not required under the Torah, even though it was an act of fornication.
o Also, if the woman’s father refused to give her in marriage, the man was released from his obligation to marry the woman, but was still required to pay the expected bride-price.
· Deuteronomy 22:28-29 – If a man find a damsel [that is] a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
o Just as noted in the scripture from Exodus 22, we see a man has enticed or persuaded a woman to engage in fornication, and the two are found out. He is required to give her father 50 shekels as a bride price and take her as his wife, whether he is married or not.
o It is assumed that the bride’s father’s rights have been violated by what had taken place and that appropriate compensation was necessary to offset the loss of the expected bride-price.
o He is not allowed to put her away or divorce her.
o It is important to understand that the words “lay hold on” do not imply rape. If you read the preceding verses in Deut. 22:25-27 you will see the situation of rape described. A study of the Hebrew words will show that this scripture is dealing with a woman who has been enticed or seduced, and ultimately consents to the sex.
· Deuteronomy 22:13-15; 20-21 – If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth [the tokens of] the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: And the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech [against her], saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these [are the tokens of] my daughter’s virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him; And they shall amerce him in an hundred [shekels] of silver, and give [them] unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days. But if this thing be true, [and the tokens of] virginity be not found for the damsel: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.
o In this passage, we see that, if a man marries and then decides that he hates his wife for whatever reason, he can claim she wasn’t a virgin when they were married.
o Her parents were then required to produce the “tokens of her virginity” (i.e., the bloody sheets). When the hymen of a virgin is broken for the first time, blood is generally discharged. The brides’ parents kept the bloody sheets following consummation or the honeymoon night.
o If the parents were able to produce the proof of her virginity, then the Elders of the city chastised the husband and required him to pay woman’s father 100 shekels of silver for the evil he had spoken against the woman and her family.
o However, if the parents were unable to produce the proof of their daughter’s virginity and the elders determine the woman was not a virgin on her wedding night, then the then the woman is to be stoned to death at her father’s doorstep. She brought shame on her father’s house with her whoring and YAH requires that the evil of such unlawful behavior be purged from among Ysrael.
o Again, any act of sex, prior to marriage, is whoring and fornication in the eyes of YAH. It doesn’t matter if you did it one time or 100 times.
o We must cleanse ourselves and our nation of such immoral and unlawful behavior.

What is Polygyny? What does the Torah say about Multiple Marriages?
Polygamy – the practice or condition of having more than one spouse. Polygamy includes polygyny and polyandry. (American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.)
Polyandry – the practice or condition of having more than one husband at one time. (American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.)
Polygyny – the practice or condition of having more than one wife at one time. (American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.)
*Biblically, polygyny is simply when two or more women are married to one man at the same time. Also, biblically speaking, polygyny is the only thing permitted by the scriptures.

First, we must understand and accept that under the Old and New Covenant, polygyny was allowed by YAHWAH. While Western culture looks at polygyny as something evil or immoral, YAH’s word never speaks of polygyny is in this negative manner. YAH never required men, who engaged in polygyny to repent for having multiple wives. There are several examples of polygyny in the scriptures:
· Lamech had two wives, Adah and Zillah (Genesis 4:19)
· Esau had five wives, Judith and Basemath (Genesis 26:34), Mahalath (Genesis 28:9)
· Jacob had four wives, Leah (Genesis 29:23), Rachel (Genesis 29:28), Bilhah (Genesis 30:4), and Zilpah (Genesis 30:9).
· David had several wives, including Micah (1 Samuel 18:27), Ahinoam, Abigail, Maacah, Haggith, Abital and Eglah (2 Samuel 3:2-5). Also, YAH said through the prophet Nathan that He gave Saul’s wives to David (2 Samuel 12:8). David was already married to multiple wives, but YAH gave him more wives. YAH never punished or chastised David for his multiple wives.
· Solomon also had multiple wives. The difference between Solomon and David is that Solomon’s many foreign wives caused him to follow after their gods, and takes his hear off of YAH.
YAHWAH gave laws concerning multiple or plural wives:
· Exodus 21:10-11 – If he take him another [wife]; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money. (Note: Read Exodus 21:7-11 to get the full context)
o In this scripture, YAH deals with a man, who has married his servant. Specifically, YAH say, if that man marries another wife after the servant, he is not to diminish his first wife’s food, clothing or marital rights.
o More importantly, the scripture shows the YAH not only permitted polygyny, but also gave laws governing multiple wives.
· Deuteronomy 25:5 – If brethren dwell together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband’s brother shall go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of a husband’s brother unto her.
o In this passage, YAH commands a living brother to marry his deceased’s brother’s wife, if the deceased brother dies without living children or a son.
o The marriage status of the living brother is not addressed; therefore, we do not know if this brother is already married or not. He could be single, but he could also be married.
o Regardless, he is required to marry his deceased brother’s wife and in verses 6 it says that any firstborn of this marriage is to inherit and be named after the deceased brother. (The purpose of this law was to keep land in the family and to protect young widows of child-bearing age.)
o Thus, we have a command from YAH allowing a man to engage in polygyny.
· Deuteronomy 21:10-14 – When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the YAHWAH thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, and seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife; Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife. And it shall be, if thou have no delight in her, then thou shalt let her go whither she will; but thou shalt not sell her at all for money, thou shalt not make merchandise of her, because thou hast humbled her.
o Again, YAHWAH’s commands make no mention as to whether “the man is already married or not.
o A man is simply given permission to marry a woman taken captive after war and instructed on how to deal with her.
o The shaving of her head is a sign that she is no longer under the cover any former authority or person. Thus, she removes her old covering. After 30 days, she becomes the wife of the Ysraelite man and is now under his covering.
o If he consummates the marriage with sex, but then decides he does not want her, he cannot sell her for money, but must free her to go where she desires.
· Deuteronomy 21:15-17 – If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, [both] the beloved and the hated; and [if] the firstborn son be hers that was hated: Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit [that] which he hath, [that] he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, [which is indeed] the firstborn: But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated [for] the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he [is] the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn [is] his.
o This law does NOT condemn the man who has two wives.
o Rather, it instructs him on how he is to deal with the children born from his two wives.
· Leviticus 18:18 – Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex [her], to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life [time].
o In the scripture, YAH forbids a man to marry his wife’s sister, while his wife is alive.
o YAH could have forbidden polygyny, but He did not.
· Deuteronomy 17:14-20 – When thou art come unto the land which the YAHWAH thy God giveth thee, and shalt possess it, and shalt dwell therein, and shalt say, I will set a king over me, like as all the nations that are about me; 15Thou shalt in any wise set him king over thee, whom the YAHWAH thy God shall choose: one from among thy brethren shalt thou set king over thee: thou mayest not set a stranger over thee, which is not thy brother. 16But he shall not multiply horses to himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt, to the end that he should multiply horses: forasmuch as the YAHWAH hath said unto you, Ye shall henceforth return no more that way. 17Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold. 18And it shall be, when he sitteth upon the throne of his kingdom, that he shall write him a copy of this law in a book out of that which is before the priests the Levites: 19And it shall be with him, and he shall read therein all the days of his life: that he may learn to fear the YAHWAH his God, to keep all the words of this law and these statutes, to do them: 20That his heart be not lifted up above his brethren, and that he turn not aside from the commandment, to the right hand, or to the left: to the end that he may prolong his days in his kingdom, he, and his children, in the midst of Israel.
o This passage of scripture is YAHWAH’s command to the kings of Ysrael.
o In verse 17, he instructs the king to not “multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away” from YAH. Many use this verse to claim that YAH prohibited kings from having more than one wife; however, they misinterpret the scriptures. While the scripture clearly places a limit on the king, it does not keep him from having more than one wife.
o In the scripture, the king is told that he is not to increase his horses, gold, silver and wives. However, does this mean that the king could not have a few horses, gold, silver and wives? No.
§ David had at least 100 horses (2 Samuel 8:4), and in this, he did not disobey Elohim (1 Kings 15:5).
§ David had silver and gold (2 Samuel 12:30; 24:24) and he did not disobey Elohim.
§ David had at least 8 wives and 10 concubines (2 Samuel 3:14; 15:16; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9) and yet he was not disobedient against Elohim in these things, except when it came to Uriyah and his wife Batsheba.
§ On the other hand, we have Solomon, who clearly disobeyed YAH when it came to multiplying wives unto him, because Solomon’s foreign wives and their foreign gods turned his heart from YAHWAH.
§ Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3). Yet, YAH only judges him for his marriage of foreign women (1 Kings 11:1-2; Deuteronomy 7:1-4) and the idolatry, which resulted from these marriages (1 Kings 11:9-10).
§ Solomon, unlike his father King David, did not follow YAHWAH completely. (I Kings 11:6)
o Conclusion: This law only applies to kings, who were given the authority to lead the people of Ysrael. Kings were to guide the people spiritually and physically. Thus, their hearts could not be led astray after other gods. However, it is very important that we understand that kings could certainly have more than one wife and that this law did not apply to other Ysraelite men. While Ysrael no longer has a physical king, other men should certainly exercise the caution put forth in this command, to insure their hearts are not turned from YAH to idolatry.

Summary: Polygyny was allowed by YAHWAH. Throughout the old and new testament, you will not see the issue of multiple wives condemned by YAH or Yahoshua. We must understand that YAH did not condone fornication, and thus, often required a man to marry a virgin woman after having sex with her, regardless of his marital status at the time.

Another crucial point, is that the permission of the current wife or wives was not required before a man took another wife. However, should all parties be clear in their understanding of YAH’s word and perhaps discuss the matter to encourage peace and oneness in the home? Yes, in my opinion. Yet sisters, we must ask YAHWAH to purge our hearts of Western culture, thinking and selfishness. A second wife does not mean that your husband loves you any less. A second wife does not mean that you now have a slave to do all your housework and take care of the children. A second wife is a sister wife and friend. She is to be a blessed addition to your marriage and home. A multiple wife situation may offer covering to a single woman, who has no other covering or protection.

As a final point, I want to stress that this may not be for everyone’s home and marriage. However, we must gain understanding of YAH’s word on this matter so that we do not judge others whom YAH blesses with this type of family. Additionally sisters, you must gain wisdom and knowledge on this matter in the even that YAH should see fit to bless your husband and home with another wife. Many will leave their home and marriage, because of selfishness and lack of understanding. Some will leave because they think it is illegal. Please seek YAH and His word before you act on your own will.

What about Concubines? (“Concu… what?”)

Concubine – 1) a woman who cohabits with a man to whom she is not legally married, esp. one regarded as socially or sexually subservient; mistress; 2) (among polygamous peoples) a secondary wife, usually of inferior rank. (American Heritage Dictionary, http://www.dictionary.com.)

What is the Biblical definition of concubine?

piylegesh (pee-leh’-ghesh or pilegesh {pee-leh’-ghesh}) (Hebrew – Strong’s #6370) – of uncertain derivation; a concubine; also (masculine) a paramour:–concubine, paramour.

What does Torah say about concubines?

1. First, we must understand that a concubine relationship was not sexually immoral or fornication.

2. Second, a concubine was considered a wife. Yes, she was married to the man. In most cases, a woman is called a concubine in one part of scripture and a wife in another. See the following examples:

o David’s 10 concubines are called his concubines and his wives, by YAHWAH. (2 Samuel 12:11; 16:21-22).
o Keturah is called Abraham’s concubine in 1 Chronicles 1:32, but his wife in Genesis 25:1.
o The Levites concubine mentioned in Judges 19 and 20 “committed whoring against him” (Judges 19:2) and left “her husband” (Judges 19:3). She is called a concubine in Judges 19:1,2,9,24,25,29; 20:4 and 5, yet at the same time, her male partner, the Levite, is called “her husband” in Judges 19:3 and 20:4. In addition, the concubines father is called the “father-in-law” (Judges 19:4,7,9), and the Levite is called the “son-in-law” (Judges 19:5).
3. Third, the difference between a wife and concubine is that the concubine was usually a servant or slave, and not free, like a wife. We see several examples of maidservants or slave women being married in scripture. In such cases, they were considered concubine-wife.
o Bilhah, Jacob’s concubine (Genesis 35:22), whom Rachel gave to him for a wife (Genesis 30:3-4), was a slave.
o Zilpah was also a slave-wife or concubine to Jacob, who was given to him by Leah (Genesis 35:26; 30:9).
4. Fourth, YAHWAH gave specific laws pertaining to the marriage of and sexual relationships with female slaves.
o Exodus 21:7-11 – And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do. If she please not her master, who hath betrothed her to himself, then shall he let her be redeemed: to sell her unto a strange nation he shall have no power, seeing he hath dealt deceitfully with her. And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters. If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.
o Here we see that slave girls could be betrothed or married by their masters.
o YAH provided that a slave-wife was not to be mistreated, even if the man took another wife.
o A slave wife was to be treated in the same manner as other daughters-in-law.
o However, if she was put away as a wife, or mistreated, then she was free to go, but without any money or inheritance. She was only entitled to her freedom.
o Leviticus 19:20 – And whosoever lieth carnally with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband, and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free.
o This law concerns a maidservant who has been engaged or betrothed (and the marriage has not be consummated) to a man, who has not been able to redeem or buy her from her master.
o If the master lies with the slave woman, she is not to be put to death as free woman would have for committing adultery (Deut. 22:23-24), because she is a slave and had no choice in the matter. The adultery is not accounted to her. However, the master was required to make an offering before YAHWAH for his adultery and fornication.
o Again, neither is put to death, because of the woman’s status.

5. Fifth, some women in scripture considered it a pleasing unto YAHWAH for them to give their servant or slave girl to their husband as a wife. Consider the following example of Leah:
o Genesis 30:9, 17-18 – 9) When Leah saw that she had left bearing, she took Zilpah her maid, and gave her Jacob to wife. 17) And God hearkened unto Leah, and she conceived, and bare Jacob the fifth son. 18) And Leah said, God hath given me my hire, because I have given my maiden to my husband: and she called his name Issachar.
o As we see, Leah had given Zilpah, her maidservant, to Jacob as a wife because she thought she could not bear any more children. (Genesis 30:9)
o Leah continued to pray to YAH for more sons. YAH heard her prayer and she gave birth to a 5th son.
o Leah believed that YAHWAH has blessed her with another son, because he she had unselfishly given Zilpah, her maidservant, to her husband, Jacob.
o What selflessness and strength!! Leah and Rachel both wanted to bear children for their husband and for the nation that they gave their maidservants to their husband as wives.
o While we may not be focused on building the nation of Ysrael, we must consider whether we would be willing to put aside our own selfishness to bless our husbands with children, if YAH had not seen fit to open our womb. Would you humble yourself before YAHWAH and your husband and submit to his decision to take a second wife or suggest a second wife to him?

Summary : Yes, concubines were wives and YAHWAH gave specific laws concerning the care for such wives. They were not mistresses or illicit sexual partners for men.

What about New Testament writings on the subject?
1. Yahoshua coming did not change these laws.
a. Matthew 5:17-18 tells us that Yahoshua did not come to change or destroy the law, but to fulfill it. In the Torah, YAH clearly defined lawful and unlawful sexual behavior. He further gave laws regarding multiple wives and allowed the men of Ysrael to have multiple wives without condemning them for doing so. Yahoshua did not change these laws.
b. Matthew 22:23-30 – The same day came to him the Sadducees, which say that there is no resurrection, and asked him, Saying, Master, Moses said, If a man die, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother. Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue, left his wife unto his brother: Likewise the second also, and the third, unto the seventh. And last of all the woman died also. Therefore in the resurrection whose wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her. Yahoshua answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.
i. Wow, here it is!! A perfect time for Yahoshua to have condemned polygyny, but He does not.
ii. As we have already discussed, under Torah, if a man died without an heir, his brother was required to marry the dead man’s wife and raise the first son as heir to the dead brother. This was the law, regardless of whether the brother was already married or not.
c. Matthew 25:1-10 – Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom. And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. They that were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: But the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. While the bridegroom tarried, they all slumbered and slept. And at midnight there was a cry made, Behold, the bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil; for our lamps are gone out. But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for yourselves. And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and they that were ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut
i. Rather than condemn polygyny in the prior passage in Matthew 22, Yahoshua comes back and uses a polygynous based parable to make a point about being prepared for His return.
ii. Here we have 10 virgins waiting for one bridegroom. Five are ill-prepared and run out of oil to keep their lamps burning. At midnight the call of the bridegroom came, but the five unprepared virgins had no oil in their lamps. They had to leave and get some more oil for their lamps. While the five, unprepared virgins were gone, the bridegroom came and the five prepared virgins were welcomed into the marriage feast to marry the bridegroom.
iii. While the parable is used to make a spiritual point on taking heed and being prepared for Yahoshua’s return, He often used things in the Hebrew culture to make His point. Here, Yahoshua used the idea of polygyny, marriage and wedding feast, as it is something the people understood very well.
iv. Again, He did not condemn the practice of polygyny.
d. Romans 7:2-3 – For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
i. In these verses, Shaul/Paul uses the laws of Torah concerning adultery to teach us a principal concerning the law and Yahoshua. (Read the entire chapter for context.)
ii. If Yahoshua’s coming had changed the laws of adultery, Shaul would have said so. Yet, he uses this law to drive home a point regarding the death and resurrection of Yahoshua and what that should mean to us as believers.
iii. YAH established laws concerning polygyny and adultery and those laws did not change under the New Covenant.
2. The “one wife” verses in Timothy and Titus do not prohibit polygyny.
a. What are the scriptures?
i. I Timothy 3:1-5 – This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
ii. I Timothy 3:12 – Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well
iii. Titus 1:6 – If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.
b. How is “one” defined?
i. http://www.dictionary.com – “being or amounting to a single unit or individual or entire thing, item, or object rather than two or more; a single: one woman; one nation; one piece of cake.”
ii. Greek – Strong’s Concordance #3391 (3391. mia mee’-ah irregular feminine of 1520; one or first:–a (certain), + agree, first, one, X other.)
1. Other uses of “mia” in the New Testament, where mia is clearly intended to mean first, as in a number sequence.
a. Matthew 28:1 – (“first” day of the week)
b. John 20:19 – (“first” day of the week)
c. Titus 3:10 – (“first” and second warning)
d. Revelations 6
i. This chapter tells of the opening of the seals. In verse 1, the first seal is opened, but John says he “saw when the Lamb opened one of the seals.”
ii. However, later in Rev. 6, the remaining seals are referred to in number sequence as the second seal, third seal, fourth seal, and so on.
iii. The word used in Rev. 6:1 for one is “mia,” which clearly should be interpreted as “first.”
c. What do these 3 verses mean in light of Torah permitting polygyny?
i. First, these verses are part of the letters and not of the scriptures. The letters were written to give instruction and guidance based upon the scriptures.
ii. The three “one wife” verses only apply to overseer or bishops, deacons and elders. This advice was not given to other men in the congregation. Thus, they cannot be prohibiting polygyny in general.
iii. The verses are similar to YAH’s commands to the kings of Ysrael. YAH wanted those in position of leadership to rule and govern the people in righteousness and not be led astray by other gods.
iv. As I Tim. 3:5 states, having a family (meaning at least one wife and children), suggest that a man has the ability to rule and manage YAH’s people. If he has shepherded his own family, he can shepherd YAH’s family under the authority of the Most High.
v. Interpreting mia as “first,” rather than “one,” more properly fits within the context of Torah, which clearly allowed polygyny.
vi. Therefore, the scriptures are simply advising that the leaders and elders should be married to at least one wife or their “first wife” and not divorced.
3. The “own wife” or “own husband” verse in Corinthians do not prohibit polygyny.
a. I Corinthians 7:2 – Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
i. Let me start by saying that this verse does not give the woman ownership of the husband, and therefore, prevent him from having multiple wives.
ii. The husband is not the property of the wife. Scripture shows us that it is quite the opposite.
iii. This verse has two different words being interpreted as own. The two words are heautou and idios. We will examine them below.
b. How is “own” defined?
i. http://www.dictionary.com – of, pertaining to, or belonging to oneself or itself (usually used after a possessive to emphasize the idea of ownership, interest, or relation conveyed by the possessive); to have or hold as one’s own; possess.
ii. Greek – Strong’s Concordance
1. 1438. heautou, heh-ow-too (incl. all the other cases); from a reflex. pron. otherwise obsol. and the gen. (dat. or acc.) of 846; him- (her-, it-, them-, also [in conjunction with the pers. pron. of the other persons] my-, thy-, our-, your-) self (selves), etc.: -alone, her (own, -self), (he) himself, his (own), itself, one (to) another, our (thine) own (-selves), + that she had, their (own, own selves), (of) them (-selves), they, thyself, you, your (own, own conceits, own selves, -selves).
a. Heautou implies sole or “exclusive” ownership. Plainly stated, when this word is used, it means that one entity solely owns another entity without sharing that ownership with another.
b. Heautou is the word being used when the verse says “let every man have his own [heautou] wife”.
c. Thus, Shaul/Paul is saying let every man have exclusive possession of his wife.
d. Therefore, the husband does not share ownership of his wife with another. Consider this in light of the definition of adultery and the scriptures discussed under that section.
2. 2398. idios, id’-ee-os; of uncert. affin.; pertaining to self, i.e. one’s own; by impl. private or separate:- x his acquaintance, when they were alone, apart, aside, due, his (own, proper, several), home (her, our, thine, your) own (business), private (-ly), proper, severally, their (own).
a. Idios implies share or joint ownership of a particular thing by more than one person.
b. The original Greek word idios is more accurately translated as “proper”, rather than “own” as in most English translations.
c. This word can be understood also when applied to a legal principal called “joint and several” liability. Under this principal two or more parties share ownership interest in one thing. While the two or more people who own this thing are joined in their venture together, they can be sued separately. A person filing suit does not have to sue them jointly, because each of them has separate ownership rights.
d. Thus, idios is the word being used in I Corinth. 7:2 when the verse says “let every woman have her own [idios] husband.”
e. Shaul/Paul, in line with Torah, is saying let every woman have her proper husband or her husband whom she may share jointly with others.
f. The English language does not have one word that distinguishes between exclusive and non-exclusive ownership, therefore, the translators use the word “own.” However, we must seek out the proper meaning of words.
g. Sisters, like it or not, this is a proper interpretation of the word.
c. Examine heautou and idios in other scriptures and you will find that the explanation provided above is a more correct interpretation of the scriptures.
i. Heautou – implying exclusive ownership of the object or thing in question
1. Luke 14:26 – (“His own life”) – a man’s life belongs to him and him alone, it is not shared.
2. Romans 4:19 – (“his own body”) – a man’s body belongs to him and him alone, it is not shared
3. I Corinthians 13:4-5 – (“seek its own”) – love is not selfish is the point of these verses, as selfishness is about seeking or having that which solely belongs to you.
4. Galatians 6:4 – (“his own work”)
ii. Idios – implying shared, common or joint ownership of a thing or object
1. Matthew 9:1 – (“his own city”) – a city does not belong exclusively to just one person, but is shared
2. John 4:44 – (“his own country”) – a country does not belong to just one person, but is shared
3. Acts 2:6 – (“his own language”) – a language does not belong exclusively to one person
4. Romans 14:4 – (“his own master”) – a servant can have only one master, but the master can have many servants. Similarly, a wife can only be led and possessed by one husband, but a husband can lead and possesses many wives.
5. Jude 1:6 – (“their own dwelling”) – a dwelling is shared

Summary: When properly analyzed, the verse in I Corinthians 7:2 is more accurately saying that to prevent whoring, let every man have his own exclusive wives, and every woman her proper husband. As wives, we belong to our husband and him alone. However, our husbands, being in the place of Yahoshua, would say that my wife belongs to me and me alone. Heautou confirms that a wife or woman is not allowed to be owned by more than one husband. Idios confirms that a husband can be owned by more than one wife, who would jointly and severally, share the ownership of their husband. This interpretation is consistent with the laws against fornication.
Additionally, we must remember that neither YAH nor Yahoshua saw fit to make any changes to the laws concerning polygyny, adultery or fornication. Therefore, we must accept that Torah stands on these issues and will remain until the coming of Yahoshua and the new Kingdom, wherein there shall be no marriage.

Let’s talk beliefs, shall we?

I grew up a Christian. I was born and bred baptist up until 1999. I found that there was more denouncing Christmas and Easter than being for it in Scripture. So, I started voicing that, when I had kids, they would not be celebrating these obviously pagan holidays…

What I got was incredible backlash: “Atheist!” “If you don’t celebrate his birthday, you don’t believe in God!”

What the??

WHEN did I say that?

I turned off alot of people. People that were defending and ready to die for the sanctity of Christmas. *smh*

From 1999 to 2002, I considered myself a Christian, but had no affiliation to any denomination. I learned, in New York, about the Sabbath. I felt that I should be observing the Sabbath but I was hesitant to visit any SDA churches that were in my part of Crown Heights, Brooklyn.

Then I met Cepha, my husband. He didn’t eat pork. Didnt’ go to church on Sundays. He said that he called God by His Name, and said His name was Yahweh. He said he didn’t call the Messiah Jesus, but that he called Him Yahshua, because that was His real name.

My spirit, deep within, reacted to these names. Yahweh. Yahshua. Yes, hadn’t I heard that before? Now, I am not so sure, maybe I had. But I knew he was right.

Cepha took me to meet his mother, who is also named Rebecca. She and I sat and talked and we talked about biblical stuff. I found that the majority of their beliefs was stuff that I already believed. I was shocked. I was like “Well, what do you CALL yourselves, then?”

She tells me “Messianic.”

I say “Then I am Messianic, as well.” I align myself with them, and drop my Christian beliefs. I became Ivriyt, or “cross over”. This word also means HEBREW.

It has been quite a journey. I have learned so much.

We observe the Sabbath. It amazes me how many people do not observe the Sabbath, when it is Commandment #4 on their list of 10 commandments. So they won’t observe the Sabbath, but they’ll speak against homosexuality, when homosexuality isn’t even on their list of 10 commandments. Trust me, I continue to be miffed.

We observe the feasts that Yahweh put forth for His people in the Old Testament. The ones we observe usually end with a verse that says that it’s supposed to be done “from generation to generation, perpetually” or something to that effect.

We do not eat pork. This is another often ignored verse — although it is not in their list of 10 commandments, it seems to be as important to Yahweh as the homosexuality verse. He says you are not to even TOUCH a pig.

Those are typically the big things. We believe in circumcision too, but it seems that, in this country, circumcising your son is a given.

We believe that men are to wear tzitzit. Do we believe that the blue dye that is needed to create tzitzit is still in existence — or that it has been discovered again? No, not yet. Not really. We have a mock-set of tzitzit but my husband rarely wears them. We are of the belief that every part of the tzitzit must be right in order to be used. So… jury’s still out on that one.

We believe there should be mezuzot on the doorposts of your house. Do we have them? No, not yet. But it is something we want to purchase and attach. (this is Deut 6:9)

We do not believe in marrying outside of our faith. People of our ilk are far and few in between but either a person can convert or we will find mates for our children.

We do not believe that the Messiah has ever been named Jesus. We will not call Him “Jesus”. We will not do it to relate to you or anyone else. We believe that the diety of Jesus is the false Messiah spoken of. (Jn. 5:43 – “I have come in my Father’s Name and you do not accept me; but if someone else comes in his own name, you will accept him.”) The name Jesus is not Hebrew, nor is it Greek or Latin. NOR is it English! When translated you can’t come up with anything. When transLITERATED, you come up with things like Horse in hebrew and Hail Zeus in Greek. Neither of these constitute an actual meaning. Why would I call my Messiah a “nothing name”? No, this Jesus person came in his OWN name. The name Yahshua not only has a portion of His Father’s Name in it (Yahweh), but it means Salvation — and the scriptures also say that Salvation can come from no other name!

Finally, we also believe that the New Testament and the Old Testament are saying the SAME THINGS. We firmly stand and believe that the New Testament does NOT denounce Torah, nor does the Messiah denounce observance of Torah. He says so Himself in Matt. 5:17-20 — “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. Anyone who breaks one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.”

He tells you to follow the Law, and that nothing will disappear from it! He says anyone who beraks these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called the least! And THEN he uplifts the Pharisees, that the Christians believe He was SO down on!

There is so much more, but I think this’ll do for now.

May Yahweh bless the reader and hearer of His word. Amen; HalleluYahweh.