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We’re great.
She’s great.
We talk on the phone all the time, on the texts and FB msgr. They’re trying to work out a schedule because him and her, they are pretty much on the phone all day long. I don’t mind either way; it’s been me and him for a decade lol. I be right there (you like that bad English? WHATEVER I BE RIGHT THERE) when they talking.
She’s going to try to come and visit soon. I REALLY hope it all works out and that she will come (NOT like that LAST sister that claimed to be coming and then dropped out 45 minutes AFTER we went to pick her up at the airport!!).
She’s goofy, like me. Three dorks, together it’s hilarious.
We Skype/tango a lot. Whichever works better.
She likes to discuss and debate; she’s smart and has opinions.
No secrets. Fears and concerns are discussed. Because — we’re all westernized beings…and change, while painful, is cleansing.
He and I, when we met, we moved fast. She likes to move fast, too. So we will SEE what becomes of us.
I told them both, tho — that I’m getting old (ha, only early 30s but whatever). If this doesn’t work out, I may not do this again. Because when I get used to a person being in my life, even if it is just long distance like this is now — and it doesn’t work out and so I lose that person in some kind of fashion, my heart hurts. I am sad. I was SAD and DEPRESSED and we just stayed AWAY from courting.
So I don’t know if I wanna do it again, if this doesn’t work out.
WE ARE OKAY WITH NOT HAVING ANOTHER WIFE.
That’s not the depression.
It’s the same depression of any relationship break up. Why the break up? It wouldn’t matter — whether she did something or we did something or if it just was a mutual break up — I’ma be SAD man I’ma be soooo sad.
It’s like — you get married and you feel like you should never have to deal with breakup sadness again… with Nasi — aka, the Girl that Didn’t Exist (they call them catfishes now), major break up sadness, no closure… I have to set apart with myself to gain closure from even friendships when they dissolve…
So I hope and pray it all works out. We have a good time with this sister, she’s funny and corny and so are we. It’s easy to laugh with her. And it’s easy to be serious with her, as well, because she’s smart.
Where she’s from — she’s like the rose and grew from concrete.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/our-own-voices/2012/10/30/polygamypolygyny
I forgot to post here that I would be doing a radio show. We did it yesterday afternoon? It was very interesting even tho I somehow got disconnected at the end.
When my husband came home we listened to it again and he said it was very good. *I* was shocked that the guy offered me the LAST WORD and I had already gotten disconnected!! I WANNA HAVE THE LAST WORD SOMEWHERE!!! AWWW MAAAYUUUNNN!!
Disappointed.
What would I have said anyway?!
I dunno. Something about giving polygyny a chance as a marital option in America. Something about not voting against it, and allowing those that WANT to try polygyny to be able to do it legally, where things can be sanctioned and addressed and all of that.
Anyway the show people say they want to do a Part II and make it a round table event. So when THAT happens, I’ll update y’all here as well.
Alright. I’m done. Gotta remember to keep the porch light off tonight so that kids don’t come looking for CANDY. it’s halloween tonight. BAH HUMBUG. Or whatever.
So this guy right here has been off my radar because I did it on purpose. His moniker irritated me and made me think he was frivolous.
But APPARENTLY I was WRONG, he is very very deep.
Here he is discussing my favorite subjects — polygyny and homeschooling lol.
At this time I am happy to have “met” him, inasmuch as you can meet someone’s videos on youtube and facebook.
What is concubinage?
Back in the day my only understanding of concubine was essentially a slave wife.
Many of us have been discussing this type of wife and how she is in our society today and the conclusion (so far) that has been made is that she is a woman that is otherwise not worthy of being a full wife, or not worthy of getting the benefits of a full wife.
She’s perhaps not very smart, perhaps she’s been promiscuous, or not the same belief system, or perhaps she doesn’t do wifely duties very well. Perhaps she wants her independence (like “Strong, Independent, BLACK woman” as the songs always tell her she is) but she still wants this man. Or he still wants her. In any sense, therefore she is not wife material.
That’s not a good state to be in, in my opinion, and really, in the opinion of MANY of the sisters I know.
The sisters I know, they all want to be wives (if they aren’t wives already). One sister is concerned that she will only be in concubine status because she has children from a previous relationship (she is divorced).
But after reading her posts and seeing her intelligence and her heart, many of us existing wives consider her a valuable asset to any family she joins. It’s just that certain brothers that consider themselves righteous are looking down on her because of these things.
She doesn’t want to be a concubine and I don’t know any women that are pro polygyny that want to be concubines.
I know some Hebrew Israelite brothers that sleep with a woman who is not Hebrew, and THEN tell her “You’re my concubine”, thereby devastating her. It’s like a trick they’re pulling. Sleep with her. Then pull this “I own you” type stuff.
NOT cool and doesn’t seem righteous to me.
A righteous man does NOT mistreat his women and does not trick women.
I”m kind of blabbering here.
If a woman is not wife material, simply don’t have sex with her. Make her wife material. Or make her a wife and then work on her but heavens I have yet to meet a woman that’s happy with concubine status.
Here is the FULL STORY of the TWO women we courted. We are not gamblers?? We went to Vegas once and were irritated when we won $5 and then lost $6. We never gambled again and that’s what it’s like lol, actively looking. So we take it easy now. IF someone were to come, so be it. But if it never happens, that’s fine too. 🙂
We did not mention names and I didn’t want to mention anything too particular in order to continue their anonymity…
The video is an hour long — first half for one potential, second half for the other.
Yah bless!!
Sister Wife is a 2000 documentary that follows the Hebrew Israelites, an African American community that immigrated to Israel and practices polygamy. The men can have up to seven wives. The film follows a couple that’s been married for 21 years as they decide to take on another wife.
Firstly, I am a believer in the Bible and the Torah. And Torah says that a man cannot lay with another man’s wife — that is adultery.
Now, mind you, polyandry does indeed occur in our human world. But it is RARE, unlike polygyny, which is openly practiced in 2/3rds of the world (and is covertly practiced in the Western World, sometimes honestly and other times in illicit forms, in a negative manner, like a man cheating on his wife, or having multiple baby mamas, or serial monogamy…) . It often occurs when there is a shortage of women, and two brothers agree to share a woman. OR, if it is somehow proven that the man is unable to give the woman children, he will bring in his brother.
But it is very uncommon.
I believe biologically we are not wired for polyandry —
- Women typically can only get pregnant by one man at a time.Meanwhile, a man can get more than one woman pregnant at the same time.
- By the age of 55, a woman’s ability to have children is pretty much gone. Men can make babies up into their 70s.
- A woman’s libido, on average, is less than a man’s.
- The rate of women emotionally, physically, intellectually NEEDING a relationship with more than one person of the opposite sex (to the point where they will cheat, betray their current relationship to be with another person) is, on average, less than a man’s.
So at that point, it’s just a matter of nature. *shrugs*
I dont push my views on people, typically people push their views on me. But I wanted you all to know that you wont ever see me supporting polyandry. You can DO what you WANT.
Because I’m gonna do what I want…
lol
SHALOM
Someone asked me that. So I decided to answer lol. Only took a sec.
Laila tov!
Here’s another video from wisenubianpolygyny1, on youtube. This is from the existing wife in their family. I’ve spoken to her briefly on the internet, and years ago, our husbands spoke on the phone for an extensive amount of time via the phone, as well.
She’s talking about the courting process that they go through with a wife. Will your family have a courting process? What will it be? What IS your courting process?
Sorry; the other day the link from amarthenazarene did not post! Here
It is a very thorough document, which I enjoyed reading. Shalom!
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